Dear Averaged-Sized Body-Positive Writers, Advocates, and Influencers,
I’m not sure how to put this in a nice way, but seeing you often leave me and please like me – actual fat people that is – and our feelings out of your rants, tips, and unsolicited advice columns I don’t care too much about being nice, so fuck you. Okay, maybe not all of you, but definitely enough of you. Fuck most of you.
I am over reading long winded Instagram captions that tell me to love myself the way I am, posted under a photo of you wearing a two-piece swimsuit, showcasing your stretchmarks and cellulite because you’re #brave. I’m done with fat being synonymous with being brave. It is not brave to merely exist. [insert photo that shouldn’t be considered brave]
Taken from this Buzzfeed article, body positivity is “unlearning the idea that only certain bodies are worth acceptance and praise, and instead recognizing that all bodies are equally valuable. It’s deciding what feels good and healthy for you personally, and letting other people do so for themselves. It’s understanding that you deserve to live in your body without receiving the prejudice of others… and working toward a world where no one’s body is the target of such bias.”
Yet, for some reason a large amount of influencers, freelance writers, and self-proclaimed advocates preach something more black-and-white; something that could potentially be more harmful than helpful.
Yup, I just said that. Body-positivity, no matter how pure your intentions might be, can actually be harmful to people.